I know that in normal social interaction people don’t ask each other these kinds of questions. Most people rely on other folks reading social cues accurately instead. Not all of us are that great at reading social cues — and sometimes I wish I could just ask, and trust the answers, so that I could just know, and base my decisions and actions on real knowledge instead of fuzzy guesswork.
Here’s a question I would ask if it were permissible. If you feel okay about answering honestly, without being offended, it would be useful information for me. I’m looking for useful information, not fishing for reassurance. You can select as many answers as apply.
Edited to add: I didn’t really post this looking for people to reply (But don’t let that stop you if you want to reply!). It’s more about being honest about my difficulty with social cues and wishing I could magically know how things are without having to rely on social cues. I don’t want to burn bridges by interpreting simple busyness or whatever as dislike, but I also don’t want to bother people by continuing to pursue them when they wish I would stop.