I don’t think any (or many) people think everyone is exactly the same in every way, or that no one has anything at all in common with anyone else. As usual, disagreement comes in where you draw the line — to what extent, in what ways, are people the same and different?
Mainly I’m talking about psychological stuff, of course.
At a recent playdate with two friends and their kids, we moms were talking about various issues and hangups, and one suggested that the more we realize how alike we are, how much everyone else has the same issues, the more at peace we can be.
I’ve been thinking about that a lot since then, off and on, and I’m just not sure I agree — not completely.
Yes, I realize that everyone has things they are insecure about, everyone wants to be loved and accepted, everyone has something they’re proud about, and so on.
But what makes me insecure might be perfectly comfortable for someone else, what makes me feel loved might be indifferent to someone else, what makes me proud might be boring to someone else, and vice versa, and so on.
There have been “oh, you too?” moments, but there have also been the blank stares — the people who just don’t understand what the big deal is about whatever it is I’m trying to explain.
I’ve also been thinking about this stuff in terms of how it affects being the church — theoretically, being united in Christ ought to mean it’s possible to live in real community with any other believers, and yet there are some folks (in church or otherwise) that I’m more inclined to be open with and some less. I’m still not exactly sure what it means to be the church — what kind of community it is — how to practice agape when affection is lacking.